If you’re having a hard time because you like something that maybe a lot of other people don’t, know that when you grow up, no one cares. It’s so great. I call it like a fish bowl to an ocean. There are too many people to keep track of for everyone to judge. I feel like it just gets a lot more laid back and no one cares. It’s really nice.
Two years ago, I challenged the NFL community and all men to seriously confront the problem of domestic violence especially coming on the heals the suicide of Kansas City Chiefs player Jovan Belcher, and girlfriend Kasandra Perkins, yet here we are again confronting the same issue, of violence against woman. Now, let’s be clear this problem is bigger than football. There has been, appropriately so, intense and wide-spread outrage following the release of the video showing what happened in the elevator at the casino. Now, wouldn’t it be productive, if this collective outrage, could be channeled to truly hear and address the long suffering cries for help from so many women, and as they said, do something about it. An ongoing, comprehensive education of men, about what healthy, respectful manhood is all about. And it starts with how we view women. Our language is important, for example: When a guy says “You throw a ball like a girl” or “You’re a sissy.” It reflects an attitude that devalues women, and attitudes will eventually manifest in some fashion. Women have been at the forefront in the domestic violence awareness and prevention arena, and whether Janay Rice considers herself a victim or not, millions of women in this country are. Consider this, according to domestic violence experts, more than three women a day, lose their lives at the hands of their partners, that means since the night of February 15th in Atlantic City more than 600 women have died, so this is yet another call to men to stand up and take responsibility for their thoughts, their words, their deeds and to get help, because our silence is deafening and deadly.